Nine Years of Neck Pain, Gone in 10 Minutes!
When I first started my EFT practice, I’d been a massage therapist for many years, and every so often I’d pull out my trusty massage table to work with one of my long-time clients.

Judy had been coming to me for about nine years. She had been injured doing assembly work in a factory, and every few months her neck and shoulders would get so tight she’d end up with terrible headaches. Whenever the pain became unbearable, she’d come to me for massage and that would usually do the trick for about six weeks or so.

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A Seemingly Trivial Car Crash
In the aftermath of a painful and bitter divorce, Joan was suffering from such intense negativity and anger, she was in constant turmoil, her health was suffering and she was in danger of losing her job. Recently Joan’s closest friend had ‘abandoned her’, unable to endure the intractable dark cloud. 

It seems that Jake, Joan’s husband of twelve years, had become a meth addict, successfully hiding this from her for several years. Jake had become increasingly secretive and detached from her and their children. He’d also become ever more verbally abusive toward Joan.

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Surrogate Tapping for a Hostile Ex
In the aftermath of a painful and bitter divorce, Joan was suffering from such intense negativity and anger, she was in constant turmoil, her health was suffering and she was in danger of losing her job. Recently Joan’s closest friend had ‘abandoned her’, unable to endure the intractable dark cloud. 

It seems that Jake, Joan’s husband of twelve years, had become a meth addict, successfully hiding this from her for several years. Jake had become increasingly secretive and detached from her and their children. He’d also become ever more verbally abusive toward Joan.

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Hacking Reality for a Dream Self
“Helen” compared her mother to Snow White—pure, sensitive, absolutely special and fine. But also very unstable and often suicidal. She said that growing up “I was there to support her to have a happy life”. Always struggling to be good enough for her mom, Helen believed that she couldn’t have any negative feelings or her mom would literally die.

Though she did her best as a child to adapt to this unbearable pressure, Helen could never actually help her mother, and her mother eventually did kill herself. A tangle of frustration, anger, shame and grief dominated Helen’s life, even 20 years after the suicide...

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Tapping for Fear of Heights
Once, when my daughter was young, I signed her up for four days of nature classes in Yosemite National Park, a beautiful valley surrounded by stunning mountain slopes.

On her second day it was my turn to help chaperone the eight kids in her group.  We were supposed to be hiking up the steep Yosemite Falls trail, but a little 9-year-old girl named Anna was holding everyone up.

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An Unexpected Block to Success
“Jane” was an inspired human potential trainer and well loved by her students - what few she had.  She had a real problem filling up her seminars and none of the marketing advice from all of the marketing gurus ever seemed to work for her.  She knew there had to be some kind of inner block to being successful.

We began with simple tapping, focusing on her feelings of frustration, failure, disappointment and anxiety around income.  And as we tapped, as so often happens, a familiar but seemingly unrelated memory surfaced.  Jane had no idea why it was coming to mind now, for this issue.

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All The Love That Was Missing
“I’ve been waking up crying. I keep seeing this little girl with her arms held up. She wants to be picked up, but her mom won’t do it – it’s like she can’t somehow. I think that little girl is me. Just thinking of it now makes me so sad.”

“Sarah” brought this to our session and I had her step into that scene and pick up the little girl, who seemed to shift from around 3 years old to an infant. I had Sarah tap on the baby and let her know she was okay, and loved and special. When the little girl was feeling better it was time to find out what was wrong with mom.

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Tapping into the Roots of Clutter & Procrastination
“Jane” had just about run out of excuses. A year after moving, a jumble of unsorted boxes filled every room in her house. She was embarrassed to let anyone come over and was feeling paralyzed and hopeless. She’d even hired a professional organizer to help, to no avail. Her home had become a place of despair and her only relief was in staying away.

Jane’s story helped put the situation into perspective. Her husband Jim was in long decline from Parkinson’s disease. After 50 years of marriage, they’d sold their beloved family home to move into a much smaller place in an assisted living community. This was a painful move for Jane and with all the boxes to be sorted her distress was ongoing.

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I Wish You'd Never Been Born
“Jane” had a very unhappy memory. She’d been through talk therapy and EMDR, which took the edge off, but within minutes of describing what had happened she was crying.She’d come to me to try EFT and with her intensity level so high we started right in tapping, first on fear and then for sadness. As Jane calmed down a bit the story came out:

When Jane was about three and a half, she woke up from a nap on a beautiful spring afternoon. Dad was sleeping on the couch and when she woke him up he flew into a rage.He literally threw her across the room where she hit a wall. Adding insult to injury he screamed at her “I wish you’d never been born”.
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Ghost Story in the Matrix
Something was wrong.

Deep into a Matrix session, my client was at her father’s death bed.  We’d done a fair bit of tapping on her younger self and it was working.  There’d been shock and overwhelming feelings underneath – intense grief, anger at the hospital, anger at her father for dying, and guilt over not taking her father’s depression seriously.

With both my client and her younger self feeling a lot calmer, I suggested we invite dad’s spirit into the picture.
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Letting Go of Cravings for Cinnamon Buns and Red Bull
“Jane” was worried about her weight.

For eight years she’d had a surgical lap-band which kept her weight low.  Then in February it slipped and had to be removed.  By our session in November she’d gained back 90 pounds and was still gaining.

Jane has a high stress job and had gotten in the habit of bingeing in the morning on a big cinnamon roll from a local donut shop and a large can of Red Bull. This would get her up and running for her work day, sort of like a shot of adrenaline to the heart.
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Bullet Proof Shoes
Do you ever shoot yourself in the foot?  You know, just when things were starting to go well in your career, or relationship, or health-wise, you made some sort of boneheaded decision or blunder that sets you back?  What’s up with that?

After years of witnessing this dynamic in my own life, and through the stories of very intelligent clients (making incredibly dumb mistakes), I think I have an explanation for this strange, self-destructive behavior.

For now, I’m calling it ‘the dreadful equation’ and I suspect that most people have some version of this program running in our subconscious. This is a work in progress, but I present it here in the hopes that this rough draft may be helpful and empowering.    Read More...

A Simple Hack for Potential Bad News
Last week I got an unexpected letter from the IRS and kind of freaked out!  My mind immediately went to “Oh no! I’m being audited!” and the feeling of dread was intense.

Have you ever felt anxious about opening a letter or email?  Or hitting play on a voice message?

Whenever I’m faced with a situation like that, especially if the stakes seem high, I fall back on simple EFT tapping. This may seem too “woo woo” for some folks, but I believe we can actually hack our reality this way.

Many physicists believe there are multiple alternate Universes potentially branching out from every moment. Naturally we’d prefer a reality with good news (and no audit, thank you very much).  But do we really get to choose?  Read More...

I Could Care Less!  Really?
In my experience, healthier relationships and inner-peace are often gained by caring less about other people. It’s actually a key issue in so many sessions I do, and honestly, I never dreamed I’d have a job helping people be less caring!

Maybe that sounds too crazy to believe, but what ‘caring less’ really means is stop taking things personally. Specifically, what other people might think or feel about us, or about what we’re doing. 
Let me give you an absurd example:  Walking down a city street you see a deranged lunatic yelling at a phone pole. Suddenly he notices you, wheels around and begins screaming that you killed JFK! You’re the one who did it!
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Getting Unstuck from Self-Inflicted Limitations
One of the stranger issues I encounter, working with clients, comes from making a kind of vow, usually in childhood.  Unlike so many other blocks to freedom, this one is self-imposed.  They say the road to hell is paved with good intentions, and that’s certainly what’s behind this sort of vow.

It all starts with encountering an unpleasant person. It might be a parent, sibling, teacher or relative, just about anyone we were forced to endure, long enough for them to make a strong, negative impression on us.

For us, this person embodies some sort of offensive, off-putting characteristic.  We just can’t stand them – they’re awful! And so, we make a vow to never ever be like them. 
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Tapping into Magic!
I’m sure you’ve had your share of getting stuck in traffic, but have you ever experienced driving somewhere and catching every green light, arriving at your destination in record time? I love it when that happens!

Sometimes it seems that the stars align, luck is with us and we find ourselves ‘in the flow’ with everything working out for us. Is there a way to get more of that experience? Maybe so!  

There’s a Law of Attraction ‘trick’ I really like. It’s called Segment Intending and comes from the Abraham Hicks material. The basic idea is pretty simple: Whenever you’re about to do something, spend a few moments thinking about how you’d like it to go.
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Embracing Sovereignty 
As children we have a powerful need to believe in the goodness of our parents.

If you think about how helpless we are as infants and small children, this just makes sense. As children, our mom and dad are pretty much our whole world.  Not only that, they become our templates for all men and women. Our family becomes our template for the world; for how life works.

If we start to realize that mom and/or dad really aren’t very good, or that they’re actually bad people, our world becomes overwhelmingly terrifying and chaotic. Our need to deny such a realization is equally overwhelming, and requires misplaced responsibility. Whatever bad thing may be happening, it has to be our fault. 
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Releasing Our Grief - Four Reasons We Can't Let Go
When someone we love dies, it’s natural to feel grief, sadness and loss. Sometimes these emotions are so overwhelming that our normal life has to pause. For those of us inclined to repress our feelings, grief can be a real struggle, but it’s something we really need to go through, ideally integrating our loss and achieving a deeper and more peaceful awareness of life.

But that’s the result of going through our grief and coming out the other side. Sometimes we just get stuck in all the suffering.

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Tapping Away Your Inner Critic
Have you ever seen an old movie where one of the characters starts hearing voices?  Seems like there’s always someone wanting to call the men in the white coats, with a net, to haul the person off to the loony bin.

Ironically, I suspect most of us have a voice in our head, offering an ongoing and rather negative narration.  It’s all about how we’ve messed up, or how we’re about to.  For some people this can be pretty intense, intrusive and discouraging.
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EFT for the Cold and Flu Season
Catching a cold really sucks and getting the flu is a total nightmare. Can EFT be effective against these maladies? Preventing them or even chasing them off once we’re “coming down with a bug”? Definitely worth a shot!

Let’s look at four other contributing Sick factors where EFT can really make a difference - Sugar, Sadness, Stress & Symptoms
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On the Road to Girona
Back in March 2018 my wife and I were lucky enough to visit Spain. After 4 incredible days in Barcelona, we’d planned to rent a car and head north, visiting some glorious medieval villages. Our first stop was about an hour up the road, the Old Jewish Quarter in Girona.

We paid a bit extra for a car with GPS, voiced by a polite but rather firm English woman who guided us out of the narrow twisting lanes of the Gracia neighborhood in Barcelona and out onto the big, modern Spanish freeway heading north. We decided to call her Gwendolyn and were very grateful for her help.

About 20 kilometers south of Girona though, things got really weird.  Our trust in Gwendolyn was put to the test. 
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Is Your Weight Problem a Weight Solution?
8 Key Questions for EFT Success.  If you’ve been struggling with a weight issue – being too heavy, binge eating, obsessive thinking about food and dieting, anorexia and bulimia, or simply chronic dieting – there’s a very likely reason for not making any lasting progress.

Your weight problem is almost certainly a weight solution. A solution for a problem on a deeper level.

When I work with a new client dealing with a weight problem, there are certain questions I usually ask to explore whether there might be a deeper issue and what it might be.  I’d like to share them with you.
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EFT as a Disruptive Technology
EFT is definitely a breakthrough technology, no question about that.  It’s easily learned and can reliably produce healing miracles.  EFT liberates human potential by empowering radical improvements in one’s personal experience of life.

But is EFT a “disruptive technology”?  And if so, who or what is being disrupted?  

Just off the top of my head, I can think of at least four powerful socio-economic power structures potentially threatened by EFT:
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Mercury Retrograde and EFT
Years ago I volunteered for a Suicide Hotline, and every month we’d brace ourselves for the full Moon.  There’d always be a surge of folks going “loony” at that time of the month and we’d get pretty busy.  You could count on it.

Of course whatever one’s beliefs about astrology, the phases of the moon are astronomical fact. And however dim our understanding of gravity; we know that the Moon affects the tides.  And since our bodies are mostly water, it’s not such a stretch that Moon cycles might influence our ‘emotional tides’.

But what is the deal with Mercury Retrograde?
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Surrogate Tapping
On a recent flight from San Francisco to Denver, just before take off, I saw two young parents trying to comfort their baby who was clearly distressed.  She was really beginning to squirm and fuss.Compassion (along with the prospect of being trapped for hours near a screaming baby) motivated me to do surrogate tapping.

Keeping my eyes on the unhappy child, and tuning into her energy as best I could, I began discreetly tapping my finger points—as if I were the baby:
“Even though I don’t know where I am, and my ears feel funny, and there are strangers all around me, and I’m scared, my mommy and daddy are here and they love me and will keep me safe”
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