Frequently Asked Questions

About EFT

Why see an EFT Practitioner when EFT is so easy to do yourself?
How many sessions will I need?
Do phone sessions really work?
Can I call you on Skype to save on long distance?
What can it be used on?
I’ve had this problem for a long time, will EFT still work?
What if my problem is too painful for me to talk about?
What if I can’t remember how my problem started?
Are There Any Side Effects To Using EFT?
Are there any other benefits?
Why does EFT focus on the negative so much? Can this hurt me?
As a small business owner, how can EFT help me succeed?
I’m very skeptical about EFT.  Will it work even though I don’t believe in it?
Isn't EFT just the placebo effect?
Is this a “quick fix” or permanent healing?
What can I expect from the EFT process?
Why should I choose an EFT Certified Practitioner over someone who isn’t certified?
Is it possible to use EFT to help relationships?
What is the “generalization effect”?

About Rob

How did you learn about EFT?
How long have you been practicing EFT?
Can you tell me more about your specialties?
What are your strengths as a Practitioner?
Do you offer a free consultation?
Do you have a sliding scale?
Do you tap on me, or do I tap on myself?

Answers

Why see an EFT Practitioner when EFT is so easy to do yourself?

Many people who try EFT have good results to start, but only take it just so far.   I liken this to exercise.  How many people have exercise equipment at home, gathering dust?  For some of us, a serious commitment to getting in shape means joining a gym or exercise class, or even hiring a personal trainer.  Why?  Because of inertia.  Deep down we just want to keep everything the same, stay in our 'comfort zone', even if it's not very comfortable.  And we’re all masters of distraction, especially when it comes to changing subconscious patterns.

A good practitioner will help you quickly resolve issues you might never even begin to tackle on your own.

Also, a skilled practitioner can often see your issues more clearly than you can yourself.  I pay close attention to subtle shifts in your breathing, the moisture level of your eyes, your body language, the emotional intensity of your voice—all this information helps me zero in on what’s really going on deep down, to make the really big changes.

Finally, one of the best ways to learn EFT is through having one or more sessions with a skilled practitioner.  You not only learn and practice the basic tapping procedures, you also develop insight into how to successfully engage your own unique issues.  A big part of EFT success is ‘knowing what to say’ and every EFT session is like a mini-course, specially tailored just for you.      Back to the top of the page

How many sessions will I need?

Obviously this depends on what you want to accomplish.  A simple phobia, or a specific traumatic memory can usually be resolved very quickly—possibly in one session.  Resolving a painful divorce might have a number of aspects to deal with and could take four or five sessions, maybe more.  Most of my clients are free of their issues between one and seven sessions. 

Some people have a great many traumatic memories, sometimes hidden, and often forming the basis of a toxic self-image, or self-sabotaging behaviors.  This might take a bit longer to sort out, especially if there is a lot of “detective work” required. 

But the good news is that with EFT is that is doesn't matter how "intense" your issue is, or how long you've suffered from it, you can still expect rapid results.  Even if you have a mountain of issues, you are likely to begin feeling better right away.      Back to the top of the page

Do phone sessions really work?

Phone sessions can be just as effective as an office visit.  Most EFT practitioners have their clients tap on themselves anyway, even in office visits—so tapping over the phone isn’t really much different. I've had great results over the phone! 

After setting up a convenient time, I call my clients on the phone or use Skype (I pay for the call), and find out what issues they want to address.  I usually ask a few background questions, but most of the session is really focused on those specific issues. 

I direct you on what to say and which points to tap, just like in an office visit. It’s actually very easy. 

One thing I really like about phone sessions is that I can take detailed notes while we talk, which help me stay very focused.  I also rely heavily on listening to the emotional undercurrents in the voice and breathing.  My client’s say it’s nice to be able to do a session at home, without the distractions of driving and parking.     Back to the top of the page

Can I call you on Skype to save on long distance?

I always pay for the call anyway, but I love Skype and prefer to use it if you have an account.  I don't usually use the video much, beyond saying hello and demonstrating the points (if you like). I prefer just using the audio, and this usually helps the sound quality.      Back to the top of the page

What can EFT be used on?

Some of the issues I have treated clients for include fear of public speaking, PTSD, divorce issues, anxiety and panic attacks, sexual abuse, hay fever and allergies, back pain, intense shame and guilt, anger and rage, jealousy, depression, weight issues, self hate, a child’s adoption issues, perfectionism, school and homework issues, sexual dysfunction, neck pain, tumors and related cancer issues, fear of dating and relationships, ritual abuse, phobias, writer’s block…

Essentially all emotional problems are likely to benefit from EFT (although conditions that run the risk of severe ab-reactions, such as PTSD, should be left to experienced practitioners).  Many physical conditions have also been successfully treated with EFT, although it should be used as an adjunct to proper medical care.

For example, if you break your leg you’ll need a doctor to set it and put it in a cast.  EFT might then be used to address the emotional issues around the accident, such as embarrassment, or anger.  Or you might have feelings of despair about being laid up.  EFT could be used to address any physical pain, or even swelling and bruising.  Any fears that you might not heal correctly, or that it might take a long time can be tapped away.  None of this can in any way hurt, and there have been many such cases where the EFT seemed to dramatically speed the healing process.

Our motto is “try it on everything”.       Back to the top of the page

I’ve had this problem for a long time, will EFT still work?

Yes.  If you still have the problem, that means that you have a disruption in your energy system now.  And that disruption can be tapped away.  It makes little or no difference at all how long the disruption has been there.
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What if my problem is too painful for me to talk about?

If you are tuned into the problem at all, then the disruption in your energy system can be tapped away.  Aside from an assessment of the emotional intensity, your practitioner doesn’t need to know anything about it.  This is one of the things that makes EFT unique. 

You also don’t need to be fully immersed in the pain of your issue to fully resolve it.  A good practitioner has techniques to gently discharge the issue with a minimum of distress.  This makes EFT the most effective approach to PTSD. 
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What if I can’t remember how my problem started?

Because we’re primarily dealing with the disruption in your energy system, we don’t need to know exactly what is causing it.  We can get to it by addressing the physical sensations or symptoms the problem creates in your body, or the general unpleasant feelings it brings up.  Often however, memories will begin to surface, as their associated emotions are discharged and they become “safe” to remember.

Because the psyche may be heavily defended against the pain of remembering, it can take a little longer to resolve a problem with this sort of “amnesia”.  But progress will still likely be astonishingly fast, compared with traditional ‘talk’ therapy.      Back to the top of the page

Are There Any Side Effects To Using EFT?

No.  Aside from increased vitality, clarity and inner peace.  It’s possible that your emotions may be stirred up, of course.  If you’ve made yourself “comfortably numb” for some time, it may be a little uncomfortable having feelings show up again.  Most people have the opposite experience.  They seek out EFT because something in their life is distressing or painful or oppressive, and welcome the relief from excess emotion.      Back to the top of the page

Are there any other benefits?

Yes.  Once you’ve learned how to use EFT you’ll have a powerful tool at your disposal, one you can use anywhere and anytime, for yourself or for others.  Whether you go on to actively “clean up” your subconscious, or simply use it as difficult situations (inevitably) show up, EFT will empower you to live a healthier, more successful life.
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Why does EFT focus on the negative so much? Isn’t this harmful?

Have you ever had a sliver in your finger?  Even a small one can be very uncomfortable, and you are unlikely to deal with it by taking vitamins, getting plenty of fresh air and exercise and eating a balanced diet.  All of those things can help build your immune system, but if you’ve got a painful sliver you’ll probably want to get it out as soon as possible.

We all have emotional “slivers”.  Sometimes they become too painful to ignore and EFT is like the world’s best set of tweezers.  EFT removes or neutralizes the negativity that doesn’t belong in us, and this allows our natural state of health and well being to be restored.  A skillful practitioner will aid this process by helping to reframe one’s issues in the context of self-acceptance, understanding and forgiveness.      Back to the top of the page

As a small business owner, how can EFT help me succeed?

Even the best business plan can be thwarted by mental and emotional blocks to success.  Fear of failure, fear of success (!), fear of public speaking, feelings of inadequacy, beliefs about scarcity, guilt about prosperity, all of these are “tappable” issues. 

Many people work hard at the ‘Law of Attraction’ with poor results, but affirmations and visualizations built on a subconscious foundation of failure are doomed.  The good news is that it’s fast, easy and even enjoyable to tap away old limiting thoughts and feelings with EFT. 

And sessions with a Success Coach may be tax deductible!  Talk about a good investment.
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I’m very skeptical about EFT.  Will it work even though I don’t believe in it?

Yes.  Belief makes no difference to your success.

Skepticism is usually a very healthy attitude, protecting us against hearsay and unsubstantiated claims—the snake oil salesmen of the world, by basing judgment on real evidence or sound argument. 

But it can also be a mask for an unwillingness to change and grow, a kind of psychic inertia.   A truly skeptical person will give EFT a fair trial and rightly judge it by the results, giving credit where credit is due.  Unfortunately, some people will attribute successful EFT results to almost anything else, even to the point of absurdity.  This is almost comical, except that it keeps them from continuing on with their healing.       Back to the top of the page

Isn't EFT just the placebo effect?

No.  The placebo effect requires positive belief.  EFT does not.  Nor is EFT merely “distraction” as some have claimed.  To the contrary, the client is asked to focus on their issue, and stay focused on it.  Also, mere distraction would be temporary, and EFT results are essentially permanent.      Back to the top of the page

Is this a “quick fix” or permanent healing?

EFT results tend to be permanent.  And they can be very quick, though not always.  If you can be traumatized in just a few minutes, why should take years to recover? 
One exception to this may be cravings for an addictive substance.  For example, EFT can be used to radically reduce cravings for cigarettes, but until the underlying anxiety (that caused the addiction in the first place) is tapped away, the cravings will likely return after a time.       Back to the top of the page

What can I expect from the EFT process?

When I begin working with a client I ask what are the major issues they’d like to overcome, and get just enough background information to begin.  If my client is nervous about the session we’ll spend a few minutes clearing that away first.

Unlike traditional “talk therapy” it isn’t necessary for me to do a lengthy history intake.  We can get right to work!  And as specific memories or feelings are cleared, we may get deeper into resolving underlying issues. 

I will usually stop to tap whenever your emotional intensity begins to spike, and this tends to keep the session pretty upbeat, even if we’re dealing with very heavy issues.  The experience of having one’s darkest feelings quickly vanish is a little strange at first.  It’s an unfamiliar sensation, but an inherently wonderful process.  Clients usually leave my office in a very good mood, even if they came in crying.       Back to the top of the page


Why should I choose an EFT Certified Practitioner over someone who isn’t certified?

Because basic EFT is so easy to learn, and good results relatively easy to come by, many therapists, counselors, chiropractors, and other folk have added it to the modalities they already offer.  And that’s great.  For many problems basic EFT is sufficient, and the more folks doing it the better.  I’d love everyone in the world to know how to use it.

However, as easy as it is to learn the basic method, mastering the “art of delivery” requires intensive study and practice. 

Gary Craig’s official certification process requires a minimum of one year of providing EFT to a minimum of 100 different individuals in one on one sessions, along with careful study of the manual, tutorials and nearly 40 hours of training dvds.  To study for the exam required watching most of these dvds at least twice.  The fee for the initial exam is $300, and there was absolutely no way to fake one’s way through it.

Certification guarantees the practitioner is well grounded in theory and practice and has a definite passion and commitment to EFT.      Back to the top of the page


Is it possible to use EFT to help relationships?
Absolutely.  Most relationship counseling focuses on teaching the couple better communication skills and strategies, and this is often very important for the ongoing health of the relationship.  Sometimes it’s all that’s really needed.
Unfortunately, by the time most couples begin to seek help, the relationship is in real trouble.  Built up anger and resentment, blame, criticism and emotional distancing, sexual problems or infidelity issues can feel totally overwhelming.  This is where EFT makes all the difference!

Imagine quickly shedding the excess negative baggage and getting on with building a positive foundation for your partnership, based on honest and open communication.       
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 What is the “generalization effect”?
There can sometimes be dozens or even hundreds of specific events underlying a major issue.  Tapping through each one of them would be a tedious and very time consuming process (although still much faster than conventional talk therapy). 

Fortunately this is rarely necessary.  Once enough of them are cleared, perhaps 5 to 20 or so, all the rest lose their emotional intensity and the entire issue is collapsed.  We call this the generalization effect.      Back to the top of the page

About Rob

How did you learn about EFT?

Some years back, my kids were arguing (which wasn't unusual) but my wife was staying cool as a cucumber (which was unusual).  This really got my attention.  Normally the arguing would send her into an emotional tailspin.  She told me she'd been "tapping". 

I was so impressed I began studying EFT in earnest, starting with the manual.  I began by tapping on my worst old memories every morning for a week or two.  My excitement grew as I watched the training dvds, read The Promise of Energy Psychology and Gary’s website and frequent newsletters.  In January of 2008 I attended two training workshops and then a third one in March.  At that time I began my EFT practice.  I've been a counselor since 1983, but EFT gave me tremendous new enthusiasm for my career.       Back to the top of the page

How long have you been practicing EFT?

I began studying EFT sometime in 2007 and began seeing clients in March 2008. I was certified by Gary Craig, the founder of EFT in 2009 and became certified in Matrix Reimprinting in 2011.
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Can you tell me more about your specialties?

My main specialty is relieving emotional trauma in adults and children.  I've seen that most of the problems that beset people—from anxiety to weight issues—are caused by unresolved traumas large and small. I believe that EFT offers the best approach to this work, as it is relatively pain free and amazingly fast.   I am especially interested in relationships and have done a great deal of work with clients recovering from a difficult divorce (often involving the pain of infidelity). 

Having been happily married for 25 years now, I am also very interested in helping couples avoid divorce by developing successful communication and intimacy. 

I have experience helping clients with phobias, panic attacks, weight issues, performance anxiety, self-hate, fibromyalgia, depression, PTSD, and self-sabotage.      Back to the top of the page

What are your strengths as a Practitioner?

My clients tell me they trust me.  They feel they can tell me anything without being judged.  I believe that my background in counseling psychology gives me a solid framework for understanding people’s issues and how to approach them.  I tend to take this for granted a bit, but I think it’s an important asset I bring to my sessions.  I also know how to listen very carefully.  I am intensely aware of the emotional undercurrents in my client’s voice and how certain words carry extra meaning.  I’m hyper aware of body language, the subtle moisture levels in the eyes, breathing patterns—all of this information helps us discover and resolve your core issues. 
I feel that my greatest strength may be bringing humor into otherwise very dark sessions.  My clients often end their sessions smiling, or even laughing--even though they can hardly believe it.  Sure the issues may be hard, but the healing itself should feel good!      Back to the top of the page

Do you offer a free consultation?

Yes I do. For most people, choosing a therapist or practitioner, is a big deal. Deciding to "do therapy" is a real investment of time and money and I want my clients to feel totally confident with me before we ever start. Consultations are typically 15 to 20 minutes.  They do not include tapping, but rather provide an opportunity to discuss your issues and whether EFT can help.  I do my best to answer questions objectively and to just 'be myself'.  Of course, I also have clients who skip this step and simply book a session by phone or email, and that’s fine too.
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Do you have a sliding scale?

No, instead I've invested my time and energy establishing a low-cost EFT Clinic where my excellent students provide sessions for less than I can provide myself. This is a win-win for all involved. Here's a link for more information on the Clinic.

If you live near Santa Rosa, I do offer an inexpensive evening tapping group from 7 to 9pm. This is offered on a sliding scale from $10 to $25.  This is a great opportunity to get terrific results for a very low cost.  Click here for more information. Join the group if you'd like to participate.         Back to the top of the page


Do you tap on me, or do I tap on myself?

In most cases I lead my clients through rounds of tapping on themselves.  I want them to feel confident and practiced in tapping on their own between sessions.  The exception is the Matrix Reimprinting technique which is best done with my tapping on the client, with their permission.
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